We tend to live our lives through our cell phones. Think about it. We use them for communication, to check social media, and to take photographic evidence of nearly everything we’ve eaten and places we’ve been. We pay our bills with our phones, play games, check websites, research. Through our phones, we can even tap into our entrepreneurial spirit and operate a personal business. With an app, a small accessory, and a fingertip-created signature, our phones become cash registers.
If we can do all of that and more with our hand-held super computers, can we also use it to find love?
The general answer for this question is “yes,” but with all the apps and profiles to pilfer through it can be intimidating. Popular dating websites like Match.com, eHarmony, and OKCupid made the move from websites to apps you can download straight to your phone to help you find your Mr. or Mrs. Right (or Mr. or Mrs. Right Now, if you’re so inclined). Other popular apps like Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Skout, Blendr, and Grindr make dating as easy as logging in, scrolling through profiles of local singles, and striking up an inbox conversation.
As of July 2014, approximately 41 million Americans have tried online dating. With the advancement of technology, it has become extremely easy to meet local people who share similar interests. As far as finding a relationship online, well, the statistics show that about 20 percent of current committed relationships begin online with an average of 18.5 months of courtship to marriage. Finding love is possible. Here are a few tips to help you find love through your smartphone.
This may seem like a common sense type of thing or even a method of safety. After all, you wouldn’t want random people knowing too much about you before you’re ready to give the information personally. However, if you want to be matched up with someone, you should answer any in-app questionnaires as honestly as you can. While it may be tempting to answer in a way you assume would be best according to the app or the type of person you want to attract, you could end up shortchanging yourself in the long run.
Keep your profile updated
Once you get your profile up and running, the next step would be to keep it fresh. Depending on how often you use the dating app, consider updating your profile picture, interests, and other key changes that may occur in your life every few weeks or every couple of months. This will help bring new eyes to your profile.
Keep your options open
So you want a man who is tall, dark, and handsome with his own home, six figure income, has to love cats, and knows how to cook authentic Italian cuisine? That’s great, but keep in mind that your perfect date may sound good on paper but not so good in person. You want to have a connection with someone, and that means you may need to overlook some small details. Don’t count someone out because they don’t fit all of your qualifications.
This goes hand-in-hand with being honest. One thing to avoid when creating your profile are clichés. You don’t want to sound generic; boring profiles don’t get a lot of a traffic, which slims down your chances of making a connection. So skip phrases like “I live for the moment” or “my friends are important to me.” If you can’t think of anything clever, that’s okay. Just be yourself.
Choose your pictures carefully, both in quality and quantity
If you’ve ever used a dating app and browsed profiles, you probably saw your fair share of badly lit selfies, pictures of cars or pets, or men and women trying too hard to be sexy or funny. Although this may garner a few laughs or cringes, if you are serious about meeting someone worthwhile, you should consider posting a few well-lit pictures that offer variety. For instance, if you have a silly close-up of your face, you could offset it with a more conservative full-body picture. Don’t repeat the same look. Also, don’t post too many pictures. Use your best and most current pictures, but don’t treat your dating profile as a Facebook photo album. Give people a chance to know your personality, not just your face or body.